My Dad…

The last Four days have been hell. I mentioned my dad a couple entries ago. My dad and I have had a complex relationship over the years. In the end, in spite of his alcoholism and smoking, I love my dad dearly and have always been able to tell him anything and everything, without encountering negativity or judgment (unless I used swear words…he always told me that I am intelligent enough to come up with more creative ways to express myself).

            On Sunday, after church, I checked my phone as I always do when I turn it back to ring from silent mode. I had a voicemail from by brother, Matt, and a text message that read “call me asap. Need help with dad. 911”. I called him immediately and learned that they were on their way to the emergency room. When he had called me an hour earlier he was having trouble convincing my dad that he needed to go to the ER so he called in the “big guns” (ie the pushy ones, me and my dad’s older sister, Susan). Fortunately Susan attends an earlier church service than I do so Matt was able to reach her and she convinced him to go with my brothers.

            When he was admitted to the ICU his blood pressure was 70 over 40. His lung was full of fluid again (it had been drained the week before). Over the course of the last few days he has remained in the ICU. He has been seen by a number of specialists. He had a blood transfusion but his blood pressure dropped severely again and they suspect internal bleeding is occurring somewhere. His blood isn’t clotting so he got a shot of clotting factor and another transfusion. He’s stable-ish at 101 over 60 or so but not quite stable enough to be moved to the other hospital for surgery yet.

            I spent the rest of Sunday by the phone after packing a bag, filling my gas tank, and adding oil to my car. I have been ready to leave town within five minutes, if necessary, but I’m reluctant to pull Luke out of school since he is moderately stable now and we saw him just over a week ago at Luke’s birthday party. I am driving up this weekend though; I’ve made arrangements so that Luke can stay here (kids under 12 can’t visit the ICU anyway and since he gets carsick I’d rather not take him on this trip).

            I am totally exhausted but I am so very proud of both of my brothers. They have really stepped up through all of this. I may have talked about my youngest brother, Michael, before. I’ve always had a hard time with him because he is so damn intelligent but I have often felt the he sabotages himself and doesn’t take advantage of his full potential. Maybe the reason he has floundered a bit until now is just so that he could still be at home and available to help my dad, and the rest of us, through this time. Knowing he is there with my dad and taking care of what needs to be done is a huge relief.

            Michael called earlier to say that dad is stable enough to be moved to have his lung surgically drained at the other hospital at 12:30. There still isn’t a diagnosis for the blood pressure issues or the build up of fluid in his lung. Of course we all assume that it is a result of the smoking and I just hope that it isn’t too late for him to get better. He quit drinking around Thanksgiving and hasn’t had a cigarette in over a week now…that’s one very good thing about him being in the ICU; he *can’t* get out to smoke from there!

            So, that’s where things stand with me right now. My computer at home stopped cooperating (again). I’ll upload pictures by the end of the month somehow but for now I’m pretty preoccupied with family drama. I thought 2007 was supposed to be better than 2006…

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8 Responses to “My Dad…”

  1. RC Says:

    You and your dad are in my prayers, Jill. Hugs.

  2. Susan Says:

    {{{Jill}}} – call me if you need a shoulder, or a virtual hug. I’m sorry that we don’t live closer! I’d love to be more there for you.

    Sending my prayers for you and your father.

  3. Christine V Says:

    Sending lots of good thoughts to you and your dad, Jill. I hope he continues to improve!

  4. Holly Says:

    Hey Jill – hang in there! I’m glad you have a strong family around you. Call if you need anything! {{{{JILL}}}}

  5. Carrie Says:

    OMG, Jill. I am sending you my best thoughts, please let us know how he’s doing.

  6. FaithAnnNB Says:

    Oh, I’m so sorry to read about your Dad! Sending lots of hugs to you and your family and get well wishes for your father. I’m glad you are able to go visit him this weekend.

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